Best for Self Play – Anal Toys

The Mr Hankey Dragon and XXXCalibur

In the past few weeks I have been getting an increasing amount of questions and messages which toys are best for self play. So this little series of guides should help you navigate my many toy reviews and help you get safe, sane and sexually satisfied through these times. I try to update this little series so if you don’t follow me on Twitter, check tomorrow evening for the next installment.

Surprisingly, the most questions I have gotten followed along the line: “I can’t see my long distance relationship partner/ play mates/ fuck buddies anymore and I haven’t used my dildos in years. Any idea for a good dildo?”

Left SquarePeg Leo 2X, Right Mel 2X

If you are looking for a realistic dildo, one of my favorite toys of all of 2019 was the SquarePeg Mel because of the many different ridges around the shaft. However, they only make realistic dildos in their signature Supersoft silicone. And if you are a texture junkie like me who want to feel every vein, that might not be enough. For this, take a look at Mr Hankey’s Toys who make toys in soft and medium varieties and if that is not enough offer custom firmness. When it comes to realistic dildos, they are have a wide range from porn star dongs over John Doe dick to uncut underwear anacondas. Both companies are offering Vac-U-Lock holes for their dildos so you can attach them to fuck machines or other nifty accessories for self play.

Topped Toys Gape Keeper 100 & Chute 75

Apparently many of you are using their time at home to stretch and train their hole. Hands down the best toy for that is the SquarePeg Egg. It opens the hole smoothly both on the way in and on the way out. The Topped Toys Gape Keeper does the same job, however, they only offer their toys in soft silicone while SquarePeg also offers a firm version. Personally, I prefer firmer toys for stretching but maybe these times are the perfect opportunity to find out your preference. What both toys are great for are long-term wear.

The Organotoy Eggs from Small to XXL

For really LONG term wear and some fun when moving out and about, take a look at the OrganoToy Eggs. They are designed to be swallowed completely, giving you a nice sense of fullness and stimulate the sensitive nerve endings inside your rectum. If you want to wear them over extended periods of time, especially the smaller ones, please get a version with the pullout chain or rope to get them out securely even when they start to wonder up your colon. Another nifty feature of the pulling out is the prostate stimulation.

Vergil the Drippy Dragon as a Representation of Bad Dragon’s „Glans and a Knot“-Dildo Design ontop of an Anthropomorphic Base

This segways directly into the last category of this short overview: Prostate stimulation toys. I have to preferred prostate toy: First Bad Dragon’s Vergil the Drippy Dragon. The shape of head and body are PERFECTY for targeting my prostate and I have gotten countless anal and prostate orgasms from it. The other is the SquarePeg Acorn. The small, innocent looking ridge around the rim seems small but in the right hands and position will drive you nuts. And I am sure you now have enough time to find that perfect spot for you. And yes, of course there is the OrganoToys SAW for prostate milking. It is one of the most bizarre toys I have come across in my eight years of reviewing kinky sex toys. If you want something unusual and want to support a small, independent toy maker, give it a try.

Tomorrow I will take the look at E-Sim toys to pleasure yourself.

SqaurePeg Peg Away Putty

The Square Peg Peg Away Putty’s Putty (left) and Activator (right)

Vendor: Mr S (USA) & Regulation (EU)

What is Peg Away Putty for?

There are many great ass toy manufacturers out there who produce an incredible number of different toys for every kind of ass, kink and fantasy. Yet each ass is different, each bottom’s “itch” is placed somewhere else. For this kind of situation, Square Peg introduced their Peg Away Putty. As the name says, it is a putty you can mold to alter the shape of your silicone (and ONLY silicone, best platinum silicone!) toys to fit your needs best. You can also create entire toys from scratch, starting from sounds over what Square Peg calls “bands” which you can put on your wrist for fisting or your toys to add texture up to entire plugs and dildos though this will be a pricy endeavor.

Detail of the Putty and Activator

What do you get?

Each set consists of two containers: One with an opaque white activator for curing the silicone and one with the colored putty. This putty comes in all typical Square Peg colors and firmnesses: The iconic bronze and graphite in supersoft, in firm the classic black but also in white, blue red, yellow, green, pink, brown, purple, orange and grey. The entire container does not need to be used at once. Just take as much putty and activator as you need and close the container afterwards. You also get a manual which explains how to use the putty correctly (and which I have misplaced).

How do you use it?

Before you start actually using it on toys, I recommend playing with the putty without the activator to get a feeling for the material, how it behaves, how you could shape it and how to mold it on the toy. Without the activator it won’t cure so you can play around with it, try a different shape and start over again.

The Square Peg Pegger Extractor with More Putty Sever Ridges

When you have gathered enough experience, realized your idea in vitro without the activator and got a feeling how much putty you need for your project, the toy, surface and hands need to be prepared. All surfaces coming in contact with the putty must be grease and dirt free. So I recommend washing everything with a degreasing dish soap. When you are from the USA I recommend the simple Dawn Ultra (NOT the ones with lotion or special smell or else), in Germany I use either Pril or Fit. The putty should best be used with well cleaned bare hands, because gloves can be covered in stuff which can hinder the curing process. Also, the putty comes off the hands so easily, you do not need gloves. If you have very sensitive hands, Square Pegs offers special glove which are made to work with the putty.

To ensure a proper curing and bonding, you have to use equal parts of putty and activator. This means you will need half the putty amount from your in vitro tests. Now knead both elements on a smooth surface like a glass cutting borad until you get a homogenous mixture. And then the shaping starts. Like good pizza dough, the mixture is very elastic and tends to return to its original shape. So it needs a bit of beating and stretching until it maintains the desired shape. Wrapping it around plastic tubes helps with that. Once the final shape is reached, either gently yet firmly attach the putty to the existing toy or add texture. Now the toy needs to rest for at least three hours for the curing and bonding to take place – I recommend letting it sit over night – and then your new toy is ready to go.

Peg Away Putty Used to make the  Pegger Extractor’s Rim more Blunt

So much for the technical part. But how does it feel to work with it? To be honest, I am not the most handy person and I was afraid to use the Peg Away Putty. But the playing around with the putty helped a lot and showed me how easy it is. When altering a toy, I recommend taking it easy and not add too much material. Especially when it comes to adding texture to a toy, even little and subtle additions can have a big affect on how the toy feels; adding a bit of girth with a steep slope can turn an easy fucker into a hard struggle.

The Peg Away Putty comes in different package sizes from 1 oz to 4 oz with the price ranging from $14.95 to $44.94. Just take a look at the range at Mr S and Regulation which set fits your project best.

ElectraStim AXIS Unboxing

While the snow is falling heavily outside the window, it is a good time to get ToyTorture.com out of its hibernation. I decided to start with an heavily requested piece: The unboxing of the ElectraStim’s new leading power box AXIS. If you are interested in how the box performs in play, read my impression of the beta test unit here. The guys from ElectraStim informed me that they are currently fine-tuning the first update which will incorporate some input I gave them over my time with the beta unite. Once it is released, I will write an update article how the box improved. But now, in medias res of the unboxing…What sets AXIS apart from all other power boxes is the exterior packing. While a sleeve around the carrying case has been the industry standard (except for the unmarked corrugated fiberboard boxes ErosTek ships their power boxes in…) for years, ElectraStim decided to go with a full cardboard box with a glossy full color print. Since the full potential of AXIS does not really jump out, having more space for texts and pictures is a good thing. Though as a marketing professional, I would have wished for two or three enticing pictures on the back instead of just a dry yet information dense text.Opening up the outer packaging reveals a nice surprise: Instead of going for the already mentioned “industry standard” hard plastic case they went for a soft shell nylon zipper case. I like this innovation because I can store a little bit “crushable” case better in my play luggage than stiff one. Also, it protects the unit inside better.Inside, the layout is very traditional: The bottom half is filled with foam which features a cut-out for the power box itself and a larger one for accessories and cables. Inside the lid is a zipper closed mesh pocket for smaller accessories.What is noticeable compared to other power boxes is the lack of a battery. This is because AXIS has a build-in one which can be charged using a standard micro-USB cable. Through this design decision, the power box itself measured only 112x70x23mm and weighs just 116g play-ready.How much punch is packed in a really small sizes becomes apparent when placing AXIS amongst its “relatives”: It is only slightly larger and heavier than the Flick Duo which also features a build-in battery and considerably smaller and handier than the equally powerful but less feature-heavy and 9V battery-powered SensaVox.AIXS comes with a nifty belt clips which is a nifty accessory when playing with the movement sensor or accelerometer.Since AXIS is a dual-channel power box, it comes with two 120cm long 2mm socket-to-2mm pin leads. When ElectraStim contacted me, asking me if I would be interested in beta-testing something new and exciting I got my hopes up that they would take the big leap and change their lead system to the “industry standard” 3.5mm jack-to-4mm banana plug but I guess once you design your entire electrode ecosystem around a standard you cannot change it anymore so I will continue to carry adapters around with me.Like almost every power box, you get a set of pad electrodes which is a nice to have for play right out of the box.Since AXIS has quite sophisticated audio processing, the unit comes with a 100cm high quality line-in-cable which features gold-plated 3.5mm jacks for perfect transmission.I have to be honest, I am a bit amused when I found a 55cm long micro USB cable inside the box. Yes, it is essential for charging the power box (But where is the USB charger?) and for updating it, but I can hardly imagine a household without a single micro-USB cable. Maybe a pure Apple fanboy household.Speaking of updates, the small metal pin is needed to press the hardware button to initiate the update process when AXIS is connected to the computer.And speaking of the computer: You need a computer to read the full manual. Inside the case is just a little quick-start guide in English, French, German, Dutch and Spanish and the little flyer about how to get the extended 3-year warranty.

ToyTorture’s Stocking Stuffer VI –Mr Hankey Textured Plugs

You – my readers – have a weird relationship with anthropomorphic anal toys: The more I review them, the thirstier you become for more info. So as soon as I published the review of the Dragon and XXXCalibur from Mr Hankey I got inundated with review requests for their other toys. This little piece is basically a shortlist of the most requested models:

Prince Charming: The heavily textured head with a large rim in combination with the knotty shaft promise fun somewhere between agony and ecstasy.

Solatok: Less a plug, more a dildo it seems ideal for fucking. The scales on the back will torment the prostate while the large knot will bust the sphincter.

Butt Bolt: This one looks like a real bruiser. A large tip promises an intense entry, the ridges on the side will stimulate/ tire out the sphincter intensely and the large different between the maximum diameter and the neck will be a good approximation of a fist punching a hole.

This list is a great example of your great taste – or how well you know what makes the hungry ass pig in me happy. So as much as these toys are on my Christmas list for reviewing them for you, as much am I and my testee panel looking forward to the testing process if I should get them one day.

As with all items in the little gift guide list Mr Hankey’s toys are premium quality, being hand crafted out of top notch platinum silicone which is reflected in the price. The Prince Charming and the Solatok are available at Mr S for prices between $129.95 and $184.95 depending on the size while at the moment the Butt Bolt is only available at Mr Hankey directly for between $69.95 and $144.95. But if they are as good as the ones which are currently traveling through Europe bringing joy to my testees, they are worth their money!

The End of Kinky Tumblr – A Personal Farewell

It has been three weeks since Tumblr announced that they would be banning NSFW content on their platform from December 17th on. Until this point the platform was one of the largest – if not the largest – collection of porn in human history. But the moment the news hit the scene, not only a ludicrous discussion about freedom of speech and censorship started[i] but people back-up their data and deleted their blogs. The exodus of active users, one star reviews in the app stores and steeply dropping numbers of blogs and app downloads apparently hit Tumblr so hard that they were forced to release a spurious statement that they would not be deleting but instead hiding stuff and that people can still leave their content on the platform – though nobody could see it anymore. Naturally this did not stop people from leaving Tumblr. At this moment a number of different websites are competing for the users looking where to display and consume their porn elsewhere, but no major one has emerged yet.

Being a big opponent of Facebook’s policies, I never used any of their services, including WhatsApp and Instragram. I have been on Twitter for ages, first with a vanilla account and when I started to set up ToyTorture.com with a kinky account. Tumblr followed some time later when I realized that Twitter was not the best place to present kinky pics. 

Tumblr opened up a whole new world of kink to me. The aesthetic inspired me for pictures, the play setups gave me ideas which toys to get and the perversions sparked interests in trying out new things. It also quickly became an important social media channel for ToyTorture.com. Not only gave the large followership and reblogs my reviews a big exposure but the message and chat feature over time became the largest inbox for reader questions. Since this website is my love child, a single-person operation into which flows a lot of my time, sweat, tears and love, knowing that a lot of people read what I write and getting feedback from my readers means a lot to me. Tumblr helped with that.

Last but not least, the affiliate links for Mr S, Regulation and E-Stim Systems I posted under the posts created a little flow of store credit. It was always my plan to make ToyTorture.com an ad free website to keep it independent. Despite all the critic I get for “promoting” certain products and manufacturers through Desiderates and Christmas gift tips, etc. it is still my personal taste and my wishes as a private person, pervert and toy collector which influences the toy selection and not some corporation urging me to post stuff in order to make money. Because of that, ToyTorture.com actually costs me some money for the server and despite a little stream of review samples a lot of money to buy the toys I review. The affiliate programs gave me store credit help me to buy stuff people are keen in reading a review about even when I am not that interested in the toy that I would spend my hard earned money on it. With Tumblr dying, I am certain my affiliate income will drop and thus limit the range of toys I will be able to review.  

At the time when this blog post will be published, my Tumblr account is still active. I am astonished how many surprisingly sexual pictures are still visible to the public. But still… Tumblr feels barren these days. For years, the Tumblr app on my tablet was my go-to app when I was up WAY too early because of my insomnia. After the purge it is still a collection of hot pics but a lot is missing. It does not feel whole(some) anymore. Having “only” lost 25% of my followers and actually gaining new ones every day (probably flocking to the blogs which still have a decent amount of original pictures), it would probably still be worth to put content on there. On the other hand, the entire controversy spoiled my mood to post content there.

So I guess, I should delete my blog, taking a stand against SESTA and FOSTA and the frightening amount of sex-negativity and conservatism creeping into many societies these days by attacking Tumblr where it hurts them the most: Their ad revenue. To start the new year with a clean slate, I will be deleting ToyTorture.tumblr.com on January 1st 2019.

All the content I posted on Tumblr will probably surface somewhere else as soon as the dust has settled and a new major place-to-be for all the perverts will emerge. In the meantime, follow me on Twitter for content and the latest update where to find my smut. And if you are planning to buy something at Mr S Leather, Regulation or E-Stim System, take a detour over my website and click on one of the links in this article or the banners on the right sidebar. You comments, retweets and affiliate clicks keep ToyTorture.com alive. Thank you for your support and see you soon – where ever this will be.

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[i] By definition, a private company can not censor content or violate the freedom of speech. It is their right to decide which content is allowed on their platform. The freedom of speech only applies towards the government which must not forbid specific things to be said or published.

First Look: E-Stim System Connect

Today at EroFame in Hannover, E-Stim Systems introduced a new way to remotely control their top range 2B power box. After basically spending the morning trying the new system out, let me give you a short intro how it works.

First, what do you need? The bottom obviously needs an E-Stim Systems 2b, their Digital Link Interface (already included in their 2B Bonus Pack formally know as the „Pro Pack“ which I reviewed here) and a computer. Currently the software and drivers are available for Windows 10 and macOS. They also supply a Linux software which is currently not yet supported. The top only needs a device connected to the internet with a browser, in this case a Samsung Android tablet.

After installing the drivers and the software, the bottom must connect his computer with the 2b using the USB cable and switch on the box.

After lunching the software and clicking the “Connect” button, it takes a few moments to pair the computer and the power box. This will only work when the computer is connected to the internet. Otherwise the status will stay “Not connected” even though the box and the computer are connected correctly.

Once this is done a 16 digit alpha-numerical code is display. Clicking on the number will copy the connection link which has to be sent to the top.

When clicking to the link, a website with the code already filled in opens. After the top clicks “Connect” the computer client’s indicator switches to “Connected”.

The website on the top’s device now allows to control all basic functions of the 2b like selecting the program, setting the output levels of the two channels or switching from low to high power modus.

Every input given on the website will also be displayed on the 2b’s screen.

Clicking “Stop” sets the output level on both channels to zero. The same happens when changing the program, just like when doing it on the 2b. What I am missing compared to their cold Commander software is a pop-up when (the sub) disconnects the box.

I was impressed how well the software worked on the release date. It is easy and intuitive to use and very responsive. Controlling the box in the same wifi and over mobile internet in the same country almost had no lag. I had a few problems with the desktop client crashing but no major issues. However, E-Stim Systems just announced the new service in a tweet which was to date retweeted twice until now and wrote nothing about it on their website’s landing page. On the 2b product page they still write about their now outdated “Commander” software. So I guess there were not that many people using their server. It remains to be seen how reliable the system works intercontinental or when the server are busy. I will revisit this review in a few months to give you an update.

Until then, I am very impressed by what they have done and it has given the 2b a real advantage towards their competitors. I can already see kinky geeks working on Linux based SBCs with 3G connection to create a mobile remote-controlled e-stim box.

If you are interested in the E-Stim System 2b, you can buy the Bonus Pack which comes with everything needed to connect it to your computer directly from E-Stim Systems for £378 or upgrade your existing 2b power box with the Bonus Pack for £89 or just by the Digital Link Interface for £69. The 2b Power Box and the Accessory Pack are also available at Mr S Leather for $399.95 resp $119.95.

Shock Collars 101

Tl;dr

Shock collars are extremely dangerous, are in many countries forbidden to be used on animals and should not be used on humans! Use a remote controlled E-Stim box connected to the balls instead!

Yesterday someone on Twitter asked for opinions/ advice on shock collars and I was glad to answer his questions. Since there are not many resources on shock collars out there, I decided to condense what I wrote on Twitter into this little piece.

The main element of a shock collar is small box which houses a power generator and two stud-like electrodes. The “professional” models designed for dogs are attached to the body using a nylon strap. There are also fetish models out there which feature a rubber or leather collar or are integrated into a metal collar. The shocks are controlled by a wireless transmitter. Depending on the model it can have a range of up to kilometer in an open area. Others are compatible with beacons which trigger the shocks once a line is crossed like an invisible fence.

Once the trigger is pressed, it works like an e-stim power box with build-in electrodes. However, unlike erotic e-stim devices, the shock is not pulsed but continuous and no program is modulated onto pulse. Since all professional models are designed to penetrate a dog’s thick fur and skin, they must not be used on humans! The necessary high intensity applied on bare skin can lead to burns, spasms and especially on the neck permanent nerve damage. If the electrodes face the bottom of the balls, they can even cause permanent infertility.

I am aware that a lot of people will now say that they have been using shock collars for years without any problems. A common argument in the discussion is that you can use low levels which are not dangerous. In my book, shock collars are like solo breath play: It can go well a thousand times, until this one, fatal time. Furthermore, most of the time nerve damage does not occur instantaneous but develops over time. While lower levels are less dangerous, I do not think they are a valid argument. As usage of the shock collar progresses, the sub will get desensitized and used to the intensity, leading to an escalation. This can be facilitated by endorphins (on both sides when the top is getting greedy) during play and the power dynamic between the play partners leading to pushing each others’ limits. And this does not take into consideration that some boxes don’t offer different channels for the trigger so strangers can (un)intentionally shock the sub without the top’s control. Another grave danger is the fact that there are a shockingly large number of shock collars available which put out DC, especially from Asian manufacturers (If you don’t know why DC is potentially lethal, read my E-Stim 101)!

If you still want to use a shock collar, you should also consider the legal implications. In some countries, shock collars are more or less illegal. In Germany they are considered a weapon. Owing them requires a license and they must be transported in a specific manner. In Austria selling, buying, owning and using them is illegal. Since shock collars are explicitly not made for humans, (permanent) injuries cause by them are most likely not covered by liability insurance. Furthermore these injuries might be considered a form of battery the sub is not able to consent to which can be a basis for criminal charges.

Finally, if you still want to use a shock collar, here are the pieces of advice I promised:

  1. Buy a model for erotic use: There are models out there designed to be used on humans which are somewhat safe (the neck is still not the best play to apply e-stim). However, their intensity is so low that it will not impress most real pain pigs or subs who need real punishment to comply. Furthermore, most of the models are made in Asia so be extra-careful if they put out AC.
  2. If you like the look of a real shock collar, only put it on a sub without batteries.
  3. If you feel that only a shock collar can make your sub comply, tie it around his thighs. It is saver than the neck and the pain and fear of collapsing should make him comply.

Kinkonomics – Sex Toy Pricing

Last week sex toy pricing was twice the topic on Twitter: British gay sex shop Clonezone announced a sale up to 75% which lead to a little shit storm because people felt they Clonezone would generally overcharge them. Later this week, Twitter user DiggerPup responded to my review of the Mister B Nipple Claws that you could get the barrels off eBay as diamond prongs for around £3.50 instead of the £30 Mister B charges for the sex toy. Since both topics are somewhat related and the topic of sex toy pricing is a constant one in my reader questions, I decided to blog about it today.

The Iconic Mr S Store on 8th Street in San Francisco. Maintaining such a big presence in a high-rent area is expensive.

Running a business creates a lot of costs beyond the purchase price of the goods sold: Rent, insurance, capital costs, wages, income and value added taxes and many more. When the business manufactures own goods, the prices for workshop equipment, defective work and research & development also needs to be priced into the product price. If you are a multi-channel retailer (which means running an online and a brick & mortar business at the same time), your prices have to have a mixed calculation: Being competitive towards other online retailers, being the same offline and online and still covering the costs of stationary stores (for example store rent in the gay district which – especially through gentrification – is generally higher than the rent in an industrial estate).

While all retails have to cover these costs, kinky products come with the same challenges as luxury goods: They are not essential needs but part of the self-actualization so among all the other purchase possibilities they generally speaking rank amid the lowest in priority. Furthermore, once bought, the likelihood of purchasing a similar good again soon, is low compared to other products. So all the costs mentioned above need to be covered by products which are not bought often and are marketed to a niche.

For that reason, the profit margin of most kink products compared to luxury goods which ranges between 60% and 150%. This sounds like a lot, but if you take off the value added tax (in percentage points!) and take into consideration that the average receipt is relatively low because the most common purchases are cockrings, nipple clamps and lube, the profit is not that high.

The S10 Hooded Gas Mask: A good example how Labor and Material Costs increase the Price of a Pervertable

So, how does this relate to the two opening examples? First let’s talk about the Clonezone sale. The initial tweet readUp to 75%”. The word “up” is important. I went to webpage linked in the tweet on Jan 21st at 6pm and the average discount over all offers was 26.11%. At an average cloth retailer you will get a bigger discount rate at an end of season sale. Looking at the profit margin from the last paragraph and taking into consideration the VAT, the products are not that outrageously overpriced as the 75% discount would imply but priced margin-wise in the neighborhood of average department store or luxury products.

The Mister B Nipple Claws are actually a good example to illustrate why kink products are not as overpriced as they first might appear. If you wanted to make your own Nipples Claws you would need two diamond prongs which cost £9 including shipping and chain and the two bails for approx. £2. The labor time for drilling, deburring and soldering will take about 10 minutes which will cost approx. £4. So a self-made Nipple Claw would cost you £15 – not including tool depreciation and maintenance costs, the labor costs for purchasing the materials and the hypothetical costs of defective work. Taking into consideration scale effects, the Nipple Claws will have a purchase price for Mister B of £10. But Mister B is not only a multi-channel retailer, but also a wholesaler. They need to price their products so they can sell it to other retailers with a profit and they must be able to make a profit covering all the costs of their own business.

The Mr S Four Buckel Restraints and Bishop Head Harness. Two of the probably most knocked-off Piece of Bondage Gear.

While I am on the subject, I want to address a third aspect I often get asked: Why are toys from Bad Dragon, Square Pegs or Oxballs so expensive? Why buy the original products from Mr S or Regulation when there are cheaper version of them from Asia on eBay?

  1. Raw Material Price: Premium sex toy maker use premium, but thus more expensive materials. Silicone for example needs a catalyst which can be the inexpensive metal lead. But for humans, lead is an highly toxic material so body-safe products should use the catalyst platinum which naturally is more expensive. Most leather from Asia is dressed in a way which does not satisfy European or American safety standards. Potentially dangerous chemicals and processes are used among which the Chrome-6 allergy is the most common yet the most “harmless”. Since most leather pieces designed for BDSM are worn on the bare skin, these chemicals are more easily absorbed through body warmth and sweat than when the leather is used to make a cheap leather jacket which has a cloth lining.
  2. Liability Risks and Customer Loyalty: The potential harm through cheap raw materials is only one part of potential liability risk. When selling bondage gear for extremer scenes like suspension, the production quality has to be so good, that an avarage piece being sold must be able to good enough to satisfy safety requirements even when assesed in court.
    Because established companies have become a brand of their own. The customer expects a certain level of product quality. Otherwise through the small size of the kink community, a bad reputation quickly spreads which can easily get a company into big economic troubles. This kind quality control causes higher costs through more thorough manufacturing, quality testing of samples or all products and higher cull.
  3. Lack of scale effects: Most kink products are not made in large quantities. A type of bondage gear is usually only manufactured two or three pieces at a time because the capital tie-cost would be too high to produce them in bulk and just store them. Through the large number of different color and pattern options, firmness degrees and extras, each Bad Dragon toy is individually made. Despite the basic technique of making leather or polymer toys is the same, there is no real chance of gathering much experience making the individual model so there are only little scale effects (for example increased manufacturing speed and reduction of defective work).
  4. The Prototype of the Mountain Drake Dildo, submitted by user Xan to the Bad Dragon Labs

    Labor costs: These companies are usually located in the western world and there in areas with high living costs like London or LA. Through social security systems and generally high living costs than in developing countries, the labor costs of skilled craftsmen like leather tailors are considerably higher causing higher product prices.

  5. Research and Development: The more elaborate the product, the more complex the design process is going to be. For example: Oxballs uses 3D printer to rapid prototype their new toys, Bad Dragon has an entire community dedicated to product design, not to talk about how difficult it is to create a sowing pattern for ergonomically designed bondage gear. All these efforts to design new products costs time and thus labor, sometimes required special equipment (3D printer, CAD programs, etc.) and expensive raw materials.

I know that sex and kink toys are expensive and that there are always more toys a kinkster wants than he can afford. But I hope this little blog entry illustrated well why the products we perverts yearn for are most of the time worth the price in the store.

Kinkonomics – The Next Big Kink

Yesterday I responded to a tweet of the awesome Pup Bolt who was wondering if pup play was going out of fashion and what is going to be the next big thing in the fetish world. My response got me so many direct messages that I decided to blog about it.

As an economist specializing in marketing and minor in sociology, I am focusing on these aspects. If you have gotten a profound sociological or psychological opinion on this topic, please share it! Also, in order to not make this post too long and overly academic I made some generalizations.

The Mr S Neoprene Puppy Hood is the pupsonas face for my Pup Player

In my response tweet I call pup play a “macro trend” which is a governing set of actions, believes and looks prevailing for years. A macro trend can have many micro/ sub trends like this case wearing Mr S Neoprene pup hoods with individual color schemes. In order to make an educated guess what the Next Big Kink could be, let’s take a look why and how trends emerge.

Among other things human behavior is driven by the urge to belong to a group of people and to express one self. So people tend to gravitate to groups which have a strong internal cohesion and differentiate themselves against the rest of the population (being a so called in-group against the majority which is call out-group). All trends start out as a small in-group which through different means gain momentum until at some point the majority looses interest, a small “hardcore” in-group remains, some elements have been integrated in the out-group for good and a new trend emerges.

Let’s look at four major means which facilitate a small nice in-group becoming a major trend:

  1. Accessibility: The lower the entrance barrier, the more likely it is people are going to adopt elements of the trend. Entrance barriers can be necessary investments in paraphernalia like likes cloths or accessories, having to travel to events or the nature of association messages which are accepted by the in-group.
    Pup Play Example: In order to belong to the pup community, one has just to call himself a pup. Different sub-groups have higher entrance barriers like owning a tail or a hood.
  2. The Mr S Woof Muzzle, for years the most present piece of Pup Gear

    Desirability and Rewards: Openly associating oneself with a group allows for certain assumptions what a stranger can expect from a person and thus influences the interaction with this person (so called halo effect). If the reputation or the actions which result out of these assumptions are considered desirable, more people will gravitate towards the in-group.
    Pup Play Example: Getting affection like scritches, lowering the barriers to interact with stranger or being allowed to leave the conventions and responsibility of everyday live behind and behave like a dog for a period of time is considered desirable by many people.

  3. Exposure and Self-Affirmation: The more exposure in mass and nowadays social media a trend and its rewards gets, the more people know about its existence and can decide to join. The degree of exposure depends on the “novelty factor”, meaning how much news or shock value or escape (pleasure of doing something other than the everyday routine) a media item has and thus how likely it will be read. In order to create cohesion expressions of belonging to the in-group is rewarded by its members with a kind of attention people crave called resonance.
    Pup Play Example: Pup Play has been featured in all major types of media in the western world. Posting a picture of playing pups or a new hood on social media usually causes a bunch of positive feedback, boosting the poster’s ego.
  4. Commercialization: As soon as an in-group leaves its initial small niche, businesses try to commercialize on the trend, lowering the entrance barriers, giving it exposure and structuring the scene. Through product selection and advertising business construct the image what it takes for an outsider to enter the scene because from a certain point of time on businesses are more vocal than the initial in-group. At this point of time, it is not uncommon for the initial in-group members to distance themselves from the trend because it has changed so much.
    Pup Play Example: Mr S through renaming their bondage mitts “Puppy Mitts”, their many pup hood and muzzle designs and selection of tails, had a big influence on what springs to mind when the word “Pup” is mentioned. That this image is subjected to change over time in relation to products can easily be seen here: 5 years ago many people associate the Mr S Woof Muzzle with the word “Pup”, today it is their Neoprene Puppy Hood.

The hood whichs makes the sub faceless and anonymous is an important piece of gear for all gimps

Looking at social media postings, reports on the pup community and interviews with community members for most pup players the relinquishing of self control and just entering a primal state of mind is what draws them towards this kind of play. This is a logical response to a world with an ever-increasing complexity. Two in-groups have gotten increasing presence in the kink community over the past two years which would continue this trend: Gimps/ drones and fisting. The gimp/ drone trend is pushing the de-humanization to the max: Not being expected to do anything but just being an anonymous object is the ultimate state for leaving the stressful world behind. Fisting is triggering a primal sexuality which blends out everything else. The intense sexual feelings go along with the increasing desire for hedonism in most developed countries. Both trends have low entrance barriers, their media is getting big exposure in social media and according responses and after all through cat/ gimp suits (and for drone play most commonly e-stim and milking machines) and anal toys for fisting the trends are commercialized.

But: Will there be a new macro trend at all? With the rise of the internet in the past 20 years the way trends emerge has changed. Before the internet means of mass communication were expensive and there was no egalitarian access to the publishing industry. Thus only few trends emerged and people gravitated towards them. The infinite way of communication and organization of the internet lead what is called the “Long Tail” (no pup pun intended). People who otherwise never would have gotten in contact are now in touch, forming their small in-groups around the globe, giving them a level of cohesion and thus satisfaction from it, making them independent of macro trends. In the end the internet solved to some extended the coordination problem, through the individual combination of in-group behavior the expectations fade creating an increasing transformation problem.

While this is all interesting from an academic point of view, do not think too much about it but go out, be kink and have all the fun you want.

ToyTorture’s Wishlist #4: Oxballs Piss Play Toys

The Oxballs Piss-Lock

In the last couple of months it feels that I have gotten out of touch with my piggy, piss loving side which is a bit sad. The warmth of the liquid and the intimacy of two people sharing this private moment used to make piss one of my favorite kinds of play. Rearranging my playroom so my play mats covered by Sheets of San Francisco are not cramped into one end of the playroom but located central is one step into bringing the piss pig out again. Getting piss toys which intrigue me is another.

The Oxballs Recycler Urinal Set

The first toy I would love to add to my collection is the Piss-Lock from Oxballs. This two piece toy is basically a gag connected to a cock cage made out of Oxballs super-stretchy FLEX-TPR with a hose. The mouthpiece of the gag is shaped like a bite-guard used by football players so it is ideal for a biter like me. Into the tip of the cock cage a small aluminum funnel connects to the hose. The funnel looks almost like the electrode of the e-stim version of the cock cage so I am somewhat positive that the internal diameter of the funnel’s outlet is 4mm – just right to take banana plug and make it an e-stim toy. And you all know that I simply cannot have enough electrodes- The cage with just the funnel and the hose costs $85. What is a bit of a shame is that I am not the biggest fan of the yellow FLEX-TPR which comes with the Piss-Lock; I would rather have the clear of the Recycler or even better the black of the standard Cock-Lock. You can add the gag for $59 or an aluminum butt plug either with 3.6cm diameter for $38 or 4.8cm diameter $58. If you want the plug and the gag and maybe use them simultaneously Oxballs sells both together as the Recycler Ultimate Urinal System between $139 and $163 depending on the plug size.

The Oxballs Ass Blaster Hollow Buttplug with Funnel

However, I am not really interested in the butt plug. Having a quite trained ass and aluminum as being a metal is quite heavy, there is a big chance especially in rougher play for it to fall out. For that reason I am more looking at their Ass Blaster. It is a hollow butt plug with three wings for easy grip even with lubey fingers. It comes in black, red and orange and in three sizes from 4.7cm over 6cm up to 7.5cm diameter. All three sizes come with a funnel which has a big opening so pissing into the bottoms ass is way easier than with into Pig Hole up his ass where you have to aim a bit. Especially the large plug with its diameter of 7.5cm should stick even in a long fisting scene. If not, put it inside a Pig Hole. The Ass Blaster costs between $64 and $98 depending on the plug size.