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Trying to get in Character to Write new Reviews in my Study

Hey perverts! Hope you are doing well and are enjoying your summer.

Since I promised new reviews and articles starting in June, just a short update why there are not contet updates at the moment. The primary reason is that my daytime job is currently very stressful. This leads to me needing the weekend for recovery in various, sometimes exhausting ways. ToyTorture.com is still and will remain a 100% non-commercial hobby without ads or anything. So the occupation which pays my bills, for new toys and the server to keep this little pocket of the internet running, take precedent over everything elese.

Another reason is that returning from a business trip, I forgot my private tablet in a train. Despite forgetting it at the terminus, it was not found. On the tablet was the finished article about Anal Depth Play 101, the personal piece about my individual approach to chastity and rough drafts of a couple of reviews. Since I like to write on premise and did not send me the docs yet, these pieces are lost for good I fear. In IT there is a saying „No backup, no compassion“ so I do not expect sympathies. But it also means that these reviews have again been pushed up.

Hard at Work in my Playroom

In August I have a couple of days off scheduled which might give me time to write, if a muse kisses me (please apply on my socials if this is your occupation). So maybe/ hopefully/ probably something new will come then.

While you are waiting for new posts, maybe check out my popular 101s and Guides or browse the short series Best for Self Play Anal Toys, E-Stim, CBT, Edging & Milking and Bondage which I wrote at the onset of COVID but which are still relevant today.

Until then, have a great time and if you see me at one of the upcoming prides in Germany, say „Hi“, give me a hug or…

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Merry what-ever-you-are-celebrating sexual deviants! As every year, the most important thing first: If you are struggling or need mental support over the holidays, you can find an overview of international help hotlines here.

This year I wanted to open with „What a year it has been…“ and then was painfully reminded that this was last year’s opening. But still, what a year it has been, right?! Political, social and scientific certainties and achievements have been thrown out of the window or got tossed under the bus of opportunism quicker than one could look. While last year I felt the need to point out specific marginalized groups, I actually do not know where to begin and where to end naming outgroups that deserve our focus and special protection. When I started thinking about what to write this year, I was briefly inclined to add „while our community is under attack and needs protection“. But civil rights and protection of members of other communities is not a zero sum game! Every illegally deported person, every trans* person being forced to detransition, every person being denied a fair trial puts every person who is not whatever reason or trait not aligned with the current zeitgeist in potentially harm’s way. So every fight, every resistance against inequality and injustice is a fight for us, for our loved ones, for our community. And while it is easy to despair, keep on fighting! There is hope and so much to live and love for.

Last year, I had hoped to write a little bit more lighthearted Christmas message on December 24th 2025 and well… that went great. For the state of ToyTorture.com I initially had the intention of writing about the destructive impact of AI but I leave that for next year. Don’t want to get to somber and gruesome on Christmas Eve. Just a word of warning, if I suddenly start posting, it’s because AI killed the blogging star. You see, the fun of facing dystopian challenges will probably not stop next year.

But there is good new. ToyTorture.com is fully back and the is a community growing on Bluesky. Except some DMs and promoting switching, I have not used Twitter in the past 12 months. Considering the licenses for AI training they asking their outside-EU-users now, it is probably good to delete everything on their rather sooner than later if you are not inside the EU. And while apparently we have certainly left the Golden Age of Toy Design (why is the USA not doing anything about that?!), there are still enough interesting and fun toys to review. My goal is it to make it to the 15 years anniversary in 2027. Let’s check in together in one year to see how far I have made it.

While we are on the subject, a quick grim warning: If you ever wanted a toy from a small maker, buy it NOW. Don’t postpone, don’t spend the money on another luxury scented candle or overpriced beauty product, buy the toy NOW! The current economic situation which de-prioritizes kink purchases in addition to the pricing power from Chinese knock-off manufacturer, puts pressure on every kink maker who does not have branding and quality power to demand living prices and has enough turnover to pay their bills. It has started with silicone toy makers who started their craft during COVID but never gained the traction and thus scale effects it needs to be successful. But it is now swapping over to established yet niche business like Parus in Munich, famous for their heavy stainless steel restraints. In the next months we will sadly see more and more of that.

After the hacker attack almost two years ago, I am glad that I did find my step back in writing reviews. Of course, they are fewer reviews than when I have started. This spring I have gotten a couple of encouraging messages to return to one review per week as a standard. Until I become a kinkster of independent means, this is not going to happen. 13 years ago I was an undergraduate, now I am a mildly (?) successful professional who has a way more active social life. Priorities shift and life moves on. Since I hate standing still, that is a good thing! What is not a good thing: A year ago I promised an E-Stim Special which did not happen! There were only two e-stim toy reviews in 2025. Mea culpa! I put it high on my to-do-list – which is written in shifting sand. So stay tuned, stay curious, stay excited for what is to come in 2026.

One thing I am putting out there after my experience or rather many post event messages in 2025: Don’t be afraid of me! I am not a star, a celebrity or anything.  I am an clumsy introvert (which makes appear way more aloof than I am) and probably more afraid of your than you are of me. If you see me, talk to me! Since I am face blind, I don’t expect me to recognize you. But on most instances – don’t come talking to me when I am playing, like it has happened during Easter in Quälgeist –  I love talking to you and getting your feedback, thoughts and ideas for my website. If you want to top/ dom me, even better. I am a lighter, more sensual player than most think. So no performance anxiety! We will probably find some mutually enjoyable common ground. If you want to sub for me, feel free to ask! Since my topping dance card it pretty full, so don’t be disappointed if nothing beyond a friendly chat will happen. But I never blame a slave/ gimp/ sub/ dog/ pig/ bottom for trying.

While last year, I closed the message with a poem from Tennyson. This year, let me finish with something more contemporary. While written for Jim Morrison of the Doors and referring to playing music, this quote is my muse when I need to be remind of all the joy there is in the world, the wonders never ceasing to amaze and inspire me, the fun in kink, the campy absurdity of the stuff that we are doing and the laughter and horniness it brings to us.

 

Hail thee who play

Michael McClure, Oh Muse

 

On that note: Happy Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, Christmas, pigmas, Lucia or whatever you are celebrating. Take care of yourself, have some quality time with yourself, your family, friends and chosen family, eat well and enjoy the gifts life is giving you, sometimes in strange way.

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And when the hour glass of temporariness has run out, when the noise of secular life has grown silent and its restless, ineffectual activism has come to an end. When everything around you is silent and still, as in eternity, then eternity will ask you and every individual in these millions and millions about only one thing: Whether you have lived in despair or not.

Søren, Kierkegaard, The Sickness Unto Death

 

Happy holidays perverts! As every year, the most important thing first: If you are struggling or need mental support over the holidays, you can find an overview of international help hotlines here.

What a year it has been… Following the somber tone of last year´s post, I hoped this year to finally focus on toys and kink fun again. But the many elections on the past 12 months have shown that the period of easily won progress for individual rights and social acceptance is over. A welcoming climate has shifted to one where individuals and groups feel entitled and safe enough to attack minorities both verbally and physical. Not a day passes by without reading about attacks on LGBTQ+ people, sex workers or civil rights or civil society activists, even in areas we have considered safe zones.

Besides the attacks, there is a strong movement to role back legislation and protections, starting with trans right. Even if you are not a supporter of trans rights – which you absolutely should because they are just basic human rights! – don´t let yourself be fooled: Once they have taken away these “easy” to take rights, they will come for gay rights, for unmarried rigs, for sexual freedom until they have reached their bigot ἀνόσιος τόπος. So we must remain vigilant and vocal about these attacks and demand and fight for nothing but equality.

So much for the state of the world. On a personal level, at the beginning of the year ToyTorture.com was the target of a hacker attack which resulted in the website going offline. Being a sex toy expert and not an IT guy, I was devastated because I could not figure out how to fix it. After a couple of weeks I deiced to take this as a sign and after twelve years let this project die. But as soon as this decision was reached, I started to miss my little website. Through apps and e-mails I was still getting reader questions which could have been easily answered through a link to a review of 101. As the days got warmer and longer, a friend reached out who offered to help. And within a few weeks managed the miracle to bring back ToyTorture.com! He has earned my eternal gratefulness and I would love to give him credit but he explicitly asks to remain anonymous, considering what he did a favor to the community as my reviews and articles are.

The website came online just when I prepared for my bi-annual visit of a BDSM summer camp in the USA, followed by Folsom Europe – a time where I usually take a vacation from reviews. Just when I prepared to get back to reviewing, a bereavement in the closest family happened which drastically shifted priorities, at least for a few weeks. Add to that some very stressful few weeks at my daytime job and here we are at the end of 2024 already. Luckily, I at least managed to review the Kink 3D Cobra chastity cage just in time before Locktober started. So if your new year resolution is staying locked (more), check that out.

What will 2025 bring? Looking at the current state of the world, how quickly things shift and that even columns of the community – Darklands meaning crane pictures, Folsom Europe being on the second weekend of September – became flexible, I am just hope hoping for the best. For ToyTorture.com it will mean many new reviews. Certainly 10, probably 20, maybe even 30. An E-Stim special? Hopefully! Haven´t had one of those in years. Bigger anal toys? Already waiting in my playroom for the review to be written. Regarding the community, community is what we make off it. Our involvement and engagement, the voluntary work, the kindness and activism that we give, usually comes back tenfold. If we are loud and united, we cannot be ignored. We will not be perceived as victims or easy targets. So even when the future seems dire, don´t despair and retreat but find allies and together vocally demand the respect, the security and human rights which are are entitled to.

Regardless if you are celebrating Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, Christmas, pigmas or are just enjoying a few days off and look forward to the opportunity to indulge in great food: I wish you happy and merry days among your loved ones and (chosen) family. For those who are struggling, know you are loved and there are peoplere people waiting for and celebrating you just the way you are. And as the new year approaches, remember to stay strong, stay united, stay kinky, stay optimistic and strive for the better. Hopefully in a few years, I will be able to write a more light-hearted holiday message again.

We are not now that strength which in old days
Moved earth and heaven. That which we are, we are:
One equal temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield!

Alfred Lord Tennyson, Ulysses

ToyTorture’s Stocking Stuffer I – Small Latex Bags from VAST

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Too often life happens while you make other planes. Enthused with ToyTorture.com being back up and finally looking functional and somewhat pretty in an oldschool minimalistic way again I planed to start new reviews in October. A bereavement in the closest family, cleaning out an apartment (not the anticipation fun filled clean out we usually talk about here…) and extreme workload at the daytime job which pays the bills and ultimately for this website forced me to abandon this plan. Not sure when reviews will return. Maybe in December, maybe in January or February. But, the Stocking Stuffer on the advent Sundays leading up to Christmas are a beloved tradition on ToyTorture.com that of course they will return this year!

The Three Sizes and some of the Colors of the VAST Phone Holster Bag made ouf of Latex

The Phone Holster suspended from a Latex Harness

End of September I visited VAST in Dortmund to give feedback on some toy designs. While waiting for the mastermind behind the Breathing System I strolled through the store and stumbled across these rubber holster bags. This design has been around in leather and most recently neoprene but I have never seen it executed in rubber!

This is a game changer for social events like the Pride parades, street fairs or bag nights. Most leather gear has some kind of pockets to store at least a few cards and a phone and even MX pants now come with pockets. But the sleek and smooth look of rubber does not really for carrying essentials around. So rubberists were either forced to mix materials or stuff their socks and suffer having a drowned phone from all the sweat running downwards. The VAST Holster Bags of a real useful and horny solution.

The Holster Bag attached to the Thigh using the two included Straps

The bags come in three sizes which all have the same internal size of 8cm width and 18cm heights which should be large enough for most phones. Depthwise you can choose between Medium with 2cm (enough for a phone, two or three cards and a bit of cash), Large at 3cm (enough space to also take the Folsom Europe booklet along or the diaper of an XL poppers bottle…) and XL which at 5cm is enough for a small camera or almost a small fisting kit if you use silicone lube. Being made out of finest rubber they are of course also the perfect breathing bag if you need a whiff of the delicious rubber latex scent.

The Back of the Holster Bag

You can attach the Holster either to a belt or harness using the hanger or turn it into a crossbody bag using the two included 64cm long straps. The straps are made out of VAST’s own aramide reinforced Superior Latex. They feature a D-ring each so are basically bondage belts. Of course they can be used to attach the bag to your thigh, upper arm or as a belt to secure it and keep it from dangling when being suspended from a harness. Speaking of security: The bag is closed with by a Loxx claps which is easy to open by pulling on the head. At first this is counter-intuitive and pulls on the bag. Thus you notice when somebody is fiddling with your belongings, making it extra secure at large events.

Both the medium and large Phone Holster Bag cost 149€, the XL 159€. They all come with a hanger and the two straps. VAST offers 9 standard colors of plain latex sheet. But they will happily make you a custom colored one to match your signature colors. On request VAST can also laser-engrave your personal logo into the bag to make it a real personal piece of gear.

Some of the Colors the VAST Cluth Bag comes in

Speaking of fashion, a little bit further into the start into the large selection of lady latex which covers the range from high fashion to hardcore kink over everyday attire – if you dare. An interesting way of bringing your kink into your daily life is through a clutch made out of VAST’s Superior Latex.

The almost Chanel Like Rhombus Patter of the Laser-Engraved Latex

It has the same great properties of the Holster bag, can withstand large force due to the aramid reinforced rubber, hates natural oils like all latex (be careful when carrying cosmetics inside!), is closed by a Loxx clasp and just smells delicious. Measuring W18xD3.5xH12.5cm in the inside it is large enough to hold a phone, keys, small wallet, tissues, a lipstick and even a pair of handcuffs. The should strap is attached to high quality stainless steel trim. It has a maximum length of 110cm and is detachable. Like the phone holster the clutch comes in 9 standard colors but can of course be custom ordered. The sleek latex version costs 159€. For an additionl 10€ you can get a version with a laser-engraved rhombus patter which gives the clutch a very upscale, almost Chanel-like appeal.

 

ToyTortue.com is Back!

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Welcome back guys! It’s been a while, almost to date 8 months since ToyTorture.com went offline due to a cyberattack. In the meantime I did not believe that this little project of mine would actually come back. And now it is done.

First of all I need to thank a very special individual who did what I could not do. He salvaged what was left of my website and brought it back to life. My eternal thanks to him. Over the course of the past few months he stated that he just wants to bring this resource back. So he does not want attribution or a shout out. So in the name of all the visitors of ToyTorture.com: Thank you, thank you, thank you!

This brings me right to the next important group of people to thank: You, the loyal readers and fans of this little website. Thank you so much for your support, compassion and offers to help! Having a website like this can sometimes be emotionally exhausting. A lot of time, work, sweat, love and money goes into this non-commercial, non-profit hobby of mine. But in most cases, I do not get any feedback but impression numbers and reader questions. Getting so many messages of support in such a dark hour showed me that ToyTorture.com matters and makes an impact. That my work is not in vain. Thank you so much for that!

While the website with it’s vast archive is now online again (and with all the legacy links still working!), it is far from perfect. In the process of recovery apparently some things in the WordPress have been broken. They are minor design things which I will fix in due time. For the time being, I am just happy that I now have my resource again to reference to while answering questions to improve your kink and sex life.

The website comes back at the most unfitting time of the year. Usually around this time I am going on summer hiatus for BDSM summer camp in the USA, Folsom Europe and the early fall holidays to return in October. And since plans have been made and vacations been booked, do not expect any new content or design improvements soon. But once I return mid-October you can look forward to reviews of

– A hand full of Regulation and Fetters Impact Implement

– My House of Basciano M4 and other bondage gear by him

– Both an antro and realistic dildo set from Mr Hankey’s Toys

– Oxballs Ball Stretcher

in addition to some articles I have been preparing (For example a Kinkonomics piece how in this economically difficult times, which gift with purchase are the best to retain customers for kink shops).

So, if you want to keep up with my the latest updates and my kinky life, follow me on Twitter, Instagram or Bluesky! Great things are in the making and I can’t wait to share them with you!

Best,

Mr Fuckin’ ToyTorture – Jedi Butt Plug Master

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Happy holidays perverts! I hope you are having a great time among your loved ones or will be around them soon. If you are struggling or need mental support over the holidays, you can find an overview of international help hotlines here.

Like every year I want to take the Christmas days to reflect a bit on the past year. 2023 sadly has yet again been a year with horrible outbursts of violence and hate. One of the founding principels of ToyTorture.com has been that this website is unpolitical, beliving in the unifying force of love and kink. But be assured that me as the person behind this little website has been deeply affected by what is going on in the world.

This development has partly been fueled by the transformation of Twitter into a cesspool of verbal violence and misinformation. Luckily my filter bubble is still holding up quite well. But I can see how this once flourishing space of kink life and discourse is slowly dissolving. So many important, knowledgeable and witty voice have been silenced or have gone silent. It feels like the Tumblr purge all over again! This fortifies my decision to host ToyTorture.com on my own and not host or post my reviews on one of the major platforms. A few months ago I started getting active on Bluesky and Instagram. If you like, give me a follow there!

For years Twitter has been the main driver for traffic to my website, especially after Tumblr died. Due to not having Twitter Blue, the reach of my tweets has gone done dramatically. This in combination with changes to the Google Algorithms sadly meant a drop in traffic to my website. Luckily ToyTorture.com has and always will be a non-commercial hobby so it just makes me a bit sad that less people see the work I put into this little website. If you like what I am doing or find something interesting retweet, reskeet or talk about it. Seeing peoples’ relationship, sex and kink life improve through what I write encourages me to keep going.

Not being dependend on traffic and revenue from ToyTorture.com also means that I have not been effected by the most drastic change in the adult toy review scene: The Apple Privacy Update. This update among other things blocks the URL suffix used to attribute affiliate purchases on all Apple products. This has caused a steep drop in income for all reviewers depending on it affiliate networks. So I predict for 2024 many websites closing down or shifting focus. Again, ToyTorture.com will remain non-commercial and independent even though hosting costs, etc are not cheap. But I have always considered this my way of giving back to the community by helping kinksters finding the right tools to make their fantasies come true safely.

This website being a hobby is also reflected in subtle changes some of you might have noticed. Most notable reviews are becoming more and more infrequent. The Sunday-6pm-review is sadly a thing of the past. When I started writing kink toy reviews I was undergraduate student with plenty of time on my hands, especially when I became single again. These days are long gone. As a mid-level executive with a fiancée my priorities have shifted in the past years leading to the one review per week being an unsustainable frequency. Also, after 11 years I have written almost 500 reviews, blog entries and 101s. This means, I have covered almost all relevant toys. Of course there are still some very interesting and innovative toys out there which I will review! But for better or for worse the days of regular reviews are a thing of the past.

This does not mean that ToyTorture.com will go offline anytime soon! On the contrary, the past year has shown me more than ever how important such a website is as lighthouse leading kinksters new and old to high quality toys! Due to the global economic situations many kinksters have started looking at less expensive toys, mostly manufactured in Asia. While there are some great kink brands in the Asian Pacific region (ForFun in Bangkok or Army of Men in Sydney), many are not meeting the high standards you would expect from products made for intense body contact. In 2023 the messages asking about advice how to deal with allergic reactions after playing with leather toys & gear probably contaminated with Chrome-6 or silicone (anal) toys being colored with paint not being made for body contact have skyrocketed. So please, before buying cheap kink toys of Temu, Wish, Alibaba or even Amazon and eBay, consider the hidden costs and please be save!

This has been a surprisingly long end of year message. I want to close with thank you for your ongoing support of ToyTorture.com! All your messages, reader questions and kind words at events encourage me to keep on going. Thank you for reading what I write, even when I sometimes rumble on. For 2024 I wish you all the best, fun, kink and unexpected connections and look forward to meeting many of you at kink events, sex parties and prides throughout Germany – especially if you want to top me.

ToyTorture’s Stocking Stuffer III – Supporting MLC Book Crowdfunding

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Playing on the Edge – 60 Years Living in the Gay Fetish and Leather Scene

Today’s Stocking Stuffer is a bit different from the usual ones. Originally I wanted to feature another small and thus sometimes overlooked independent kink business. Sadly I did not get the approval to use their pictures in time. But more importantly, today’s feature is a project close to my heart and my – local – community.

Many of you traveling Germany for kink fun know the Underground in Munich, on of Europe’s – if not the world’s – premier venue for gay kink, fetish, gear and BDSM fun. What many don’t know is that it is not a commercial venue but like Quälgeist in Berlin, Bunker in Dresden or Ox in Erfurt is volunteer run. The club behind this awesome place is called MLC e.V. – Münchner Löwenclub (Munich Lions Club, not to be mistaken with the local chapters of the Lions Club International).

Next year the MLC will celebrate their 50th anniversary. Among many parties and special events, they want to celebrate this milestone with a book called “Playing on the Edge”. In 50 articles and interviews it dive deeply in the history and life in the German speaking gay leather and fetish scene from the 1960s up to the current day. Currently the book is scheduled to be released in June 2024 and currently in German. But even if you cannot – yet – read it, it will feature many hot pictures from talented photographers. So it will also work as a coffee table book.

If books aren’t your thing, there are many other perks for supporting this project like a 50th anniversary merch package, VIP party tickets or throwing a private party in the venue. So if you or a friend of yours is interested on the history of the German kink scene, gift yourself or him this book and meanwhile support Europe’s largest gay fetish club.

ToyTorture’s Stocking Stuffer II – Slagwerk Atelier Exclusive Impact Implements

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The Slagwerk Italian Leather Paddle

BDSM toys mostly follow the principal from follows function. This makes sense since they are being used in darker surroundings and – at least in the gay kink community – following an industrial/ rough design aesthetic. Slagwerk from the Netherlands follows a different direction. By matching braided Italian leather with polished stainless steel their toys have the look of luxurious lifestyle accessories instead of dungeon tools.

The Slagwerk Riding Crop

Personally, I find these three toys most interesting. The Italian Leather Paddle (170€) does not only look interesting, I imagine that the texture of the woven leather has an interesting impact sensation. At 50cm overall length it should be long enough to hit both ass cheeks at the same time yet the blade it thin enough to hit intricate spots. Second is their Italian Leather Single (185€) which is an is basically an dragon tongue directly attached to a handle. This is an actually very intuitive design which I have not yet seen at other kink stores and which intrigues me how well it handles as a toy! Last but not least or their riding crops (starting at 155€). Having a riding crop sticking in your boot shaft is a very classic leather look and a nifty thing to have because it it easily accessible if you need to discipline your sub without dangling around hanging from your belt. The exclusive design of the handle and shaft makes their riding crops stand out and are truly an accessory adding to the appeal of a leather uniform. The riding crops come in interesting color configurations like red leather slappers. But I am sure you can get a traditional all black design too on request.

Example of the Slagwerk exclusive Limited Edition

If you really want to treat your dom (I don’t think subs are the main market for their toys), they offer limited editions in even more exclusive configurations. On these toys the stainless steel is gold plated and the handle lining is made out of exotic hides. The top of the line is a solid gold handle flogger adorn with five diamonds. Considering the weight and low stiffness of gold, I am not sure how usable such a toy will be but for the rich kinkster who has EVERYTHING, it might just be the Christmas gift to get.

Sadly I have not yet had a chance to play with their toys. Looking at the designs and material being used, the impact sensation seems to be on the intenser and stingier side of the spectrum. If you are a kinkster coming to Easter Berlin and bring Slagwerk toys with you, please get in touch. I would love to see, try and experience if the handling and quality lives up to their extraordinary design.

ToyTorture’s Stocking Stuffer I – Josh Herman X Harnesses

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The Josh Herman X Fullbody Grant Harness

Hurry up perverts! Since Christmas Eve is on a Sunday this year, we have the shortest possible per-Christmas season in Germany because the fourth Advent Sunday is Christmas Eve. Thus there will only be three gift tips this year! So without further ado let’s jump right into it.

What to gift a kinkster who has everything? Accessories – or more precisely – a harness. They are the perfect piece of gear for hard play allowing the top to move around freely, giving him something to grab the sub and they make every hot guy even hotter. Sadly some leather makers fashion their designs and cuts only for twinks or average sized guys. Many members of our community are beefier and heavier build and simply scaling up cut does not do the trick! Josh Herman celebrates this body type with harnesses and accessories designed with thick guys in mind. Naturally his designs also fit average guys but if you have struggled to find a properly fitting harness, check him out.

The Bulldog Harness & Armband both with the Stirrup Grip

He features all the classic designs from Bulldog (starting $149.99) at  over Shoulder ($149.99) and Stampede ($174.99) to Grant Fullbody (starting at $174.99) – with an option to either directly attach the harness to a cockring or with little carabiners at the end so it works as suspenders. The Bulldog and the Grant Fullbody harness can be ordered with a so called Stirrup handle. This is a stirrup-like leather look riveted and sown onto the chest-traversing strap. It is the perfect addon if you want to get pulled closer.

The standard range of his leather is black, red, olive, blue and caramel. But judging from the pics on his social media he might be open to custom work in your favorite hanky color. You can either choose a solid color, have a contrast colored piping or just have the handle in a different color.

Josh Herman X’s Fullbody Stampede Harness

If you don’t want to invest into an entire harness, Josh Herman also offer smaller accessories like arm bands ($24.99) which can add a nice touch of color to an outfit or let you flag your favorite hanky in leather style. What especially intrigued me were the Stirrup Leather Arm Bands ($75) which add the niftiness of the stirrup grip to the biceps so you have something to hold onto while railing your bottom HARD. I wonder if he would also make them in thigh size.

Every year I get many questions from thicker guys where to buy gear. And to my surprise I have never noticed one of this unique leather pieces in Europe. So hopefully this gift tips helps you get a harness the makes you feel even sexier than you already are!