ToyTorture’s Stocking Stuffer III – Gay Board Games

This week’s temperatures (at least in middle Europe) have confirmed: Winter has arrived. And with it long, cold nights which are best spent in company. For inspiration on tools for sexual company, check out virtually any other review on this website. For social company take a look at these two gay board games from Reroll Works.

Gay Sauna the Board Game

First, let’s take a look at their debut game: Gay Sauna the Board Gay Sauna the Board Game I heard about this some time last year but sadly could not get my hands on it Germany. It sounded like the perfect main game of the evening for my kinky gay board game group in Dresden after we lightend the mood with a quick game of NSFW Unstable Unicorns and a few rounds of Beauty Sekt (sparkling wine with guava-lychee juice). But then life happened, I have lost track of this game. Imagine my surprise when I found it on the shelves of Underground in Amsterdam.

A friend of mine was able to play a demo round at the game trade show SPIEL in Essen. He said that you could really tell that Gay Saune the Board Game was made by gays who had an intimate knowledge of the cruisy sauna scene. And you see that the creators are board game nerds, having designed a complex, great equipped and executed game. If you want to learn more about Gay Sauna the Board Game, there are a couple of reviews and walk throughs on YouTube. Browsing their webstore for this article showed me that they also released an R-rated set of cardsR-rated set of cards which I did not know about. Depending on your or the gift receiver’s play style, I would consider buying the bundlebuying the bundle a must to at least have the option to spice things up.

The Dick Sits with Expansion Packs

This year they release a second game called „The Dick SitsThe Dick Sits“ which is about being a litteral ass holes and getting stretched to take ALL the dicks. Being a card game, this will be a quicker game than Gay Sauna the Board Game – and even more hillarious. The box looks like having a small footprint so it could be a litteral stock stuffer. And priced below 25€ it is almost still secret santa material (this rite has escalated quite a lot money-wise since I was a kid…). Like all good card games, there are expansion packs on Body Functions, Pride Dicks and Kitchen Utensiles so you already gift ideas for occasions to come (I wonder if they be interested in doing a ToyTorture.com Best of Anal Toy expansion pack…).

A lot of kinksters are nerds, so these games are a good way to spice up one of their favorite group activity while keeping the pants on. And if a round heats properly heats you up, you can always head to the sauna together afterwards.

If you order by tomorrow, Dec 16th 2024 they guarantee a delivery before Christmas in Europe – which probably also includes potential NYE’s board game parties. But even after the holidays, these games will spice up your (gay) board game nights. Can’t wait to try out my copy of Gay Sauna the Board Game with my „Gear & Games“ group in January. Watch this space for a thorough review early next year.

ToyTorture’s Stocking Stuffer II – Cockeyekink Custom Stainless Steel Pendants and Harnesses

Sometimes you just need a little something for someone special. A token of gratitude, a sign that someone is dear without putting pressure on him to re-gift. Or – if you are going full Martha Steward – a little charm to adore the ribbon on a wrapped gift. For a special kinky twist, this week’s stock stuffer are the varios stainless streel accessories from Cockeyekink. Based in Seattle, they have quickly made a name for high quality customizable stainless steel accessories. From classical dog tags over custom text bone tags for all those puppies, alphas, betas and handlers to simple individually colors paw pendants they offer something for ever kink. On they website they showcase a great number of different designs, symbols and iconographies. But you can always approach them with a custom design which would be the perfect gift for your house, leather family or pack. Though you might be a bit late for a big custom order for Christmas.

Bulldog Harness with Poppers Pig Icon

Piss Pig Harness with Suspender Straps

Of course, Cockeyekink is most famous for their harnesses which comes in two styles: Bulldog or Bulldog with Suspender Straps. The stainless steel plates boldly display your kink. And the wide straps and massive buckles give off a heavy duty vibe. They are definitively not made for circuit party twinks but for heavy players who engage in serious kink. Again, the plates either come for a pre-designed range or can be done with individual art work and the leather color can be chosen to match your existing gear.

Different Versions of the Bulldog Harness with Suspender Straps

I have been eyeing their Bulldog with Suspender Straps for a couple of years now. So if anybody is still looking for a Christmas gift for me, send me a message… 😉

ToyTorture’s Stocking Stuffer I – Small Latex Bags from VAST

Too often life happens while you make other planes. Enthused with ToyTorture.com being back up and finally looking functional and somewhat pretty in an oldschool minimalistic way again I planed to start new reviews in October. A bereavement in the closest family, cleaning out an apartment (not the anticipation fun filled clean out we usually talk about here…) and extreme workload at the daytime job which pays the bills and ultimately for this website forced me to abandon this plan. Not sure when reviews will return. Maybe in December, maybe in January or February. But, the Stocking Stuffer on the advent Sundays leading up to Christmas are a beloved tradition on ToyTorture.com that of course they will return this year!

The Three Sizes and some of the Colors of the VAST Phone Holster Bag made ouf of Latex

The Phone Holster suspended from a Latex Harness

End of September I visited VAST in Dortmund to give feedback on some toy designs. While waiting for the mastermind behind the Breathing System I strolled through the store and stumbled across these rubber holster bags. This design has been around in leather and most recently neoprene but I have never seen it executed in rubber!

This is a game changer for social events like the Pride parades, street fairs or bag nights. Most leather gear has some kind of pockets to store at least a few cards and a phone and even MX pants now come with pockets. But the sleek and smooth look of rubber does not really for carrying essentials around. So rubberists were either forced to mix materials or stuff their socks and suffer having a drowned phone from all the sweat running downwards. The VAST Holster Bags of a real useful and horny solution.

The Holster Bag attached to the Thigh using the two included Straps

The bags come in three sizes which all have the same internal size of 8cm width and 18cm heights which should be large enough for most phones. Depthwise you can choose between Medium with 2cm (enough for a phone, two or three cards and a bit of cash), Large at 3cm (enough space to also take the Folsom Europe booklet along or the diaper of an XL poppers bottle…) and XL which at 5cm is enough for a small camera or almost a small fisting kit if you use silicone lube. Being made out of finest rubber they are of course also the perfect breathing bag if you need a whiff of the delicious rubber latex scent.

The Back of the Holster Bag

You can attach the Holster either to a belt or harness using the hanger or turn it into a crossbody bag using the two included 64cm long straps. The straps are made out of VAST’s own aramide reinforced Superior Latex. They feature a D-ring each so are basically bondage belts. Of course they can be used to attach the bag to your thigh, upper arm or as a belt to secure it and keep it from dangling when being suspended from a harness. Speaking of security: The bag is closed with by a Loxx claps which is easy to open by pulling on the head. At first this is counter-intuitive and pulls on the bag. Thus you notice when somebody is fiddling with your belongings, making it extra secure at large events.

Both the medium and large Phone Holster Bag cost 149€, the XL 159€. They all come with a hanger and the two straps. VAST offers 9 standard colors of plain latex sheet. But they will happily make you a custom colored one to match your signature colors. On request VAST can also laser-engrave your personal logo into the bag to make it a real personal piece of gear.

Some of the Colors the VAST Cluth Bag comes in

Speaking of fashion, a little bit further into the start into the large selection of lady latex which covers the range from high fashion to hardcore kink over everyday attire – if you dare. An interesting way of bringing your kink into your daily life is through a clutch made out of VAST’s Superior Latex.

The almost Chanel Like Rhombus Patter of the Laser-Engraved Latex

It has the same great properties of the Holster bag, can withstand large force due to the aramid reinforced rubber, hates natural oils like all latex (be careful when carrying cosmetics inside!), is closed by a Loxx clasp and just smells delicious. Measuring W18xD3.5xH12.5cm in the inside it is large enough to hold a phone, keys, small wallet, tissues, a lipstick and even a pair of handcuffs. The should strap is attached to high quality stainless steel trim. It has a maximum length of 110cm and is detachable. Like the phone holster the clutch comes in 9 standard colors but can of course be custom ordered. The sleek latex version costs 159€. For an additionl 10€ you can get a version with a laser-engraved rhombus patter which gives the clutch a very upscale, almost Chanel-like appeal.

 

Cobra Chastity Cage

The Kink3D Cobra with the Key Sleeve and Nether Nudger

Vendor: Kink3D

Welcome back – earlier than expected. Ever since I posted the first pic of my Cobra on Insta and Twitter my inbox has been exploding! In the over 12 years I have been reviewing BDSM and kink toys I have never had so much interest in a toy, been asked particular questions or been urged to quickly publish a review before Locktober begins.

I am not a person to quickly reach a verdict about a toy, especially about one that has been designed for long-term wear (and one for reasons explained below I currently cannot wear for extended periods of time). But again I am humbled by the trust you put into my thoughts so this will be a first more or less in-depth look that I will probably follow-up in a couple of months with additional thought.

Construction

The Kink3D Cobra is a 3D printed cage made out PA12 nylon. This material is on the sturdier and also pricier end of the printing material market. Currently Kink3D offers cages and accessories made out of black, hot pink and aqua blue. I have gotten many questions when why they don’t offer red or lime green ones (talking about summer of the brat) which I have forwarded to Kink3D. What I can assume with my limited 3D printing knowledge that color pigments can effect the sturdiness of the material. So probably some R&D is necessary before new colors can be introduced.

The different Colors Kink3D offers: Black, Fusion Pink and Aqua Blue

The material strength is about 4mm in the middle of the beams making them thicker than the many other 3D printed genuine designs and let alone Cobra knock-offs from China. Due to the material strength the cage is slightly bulkier than delicate metal cage designs but actually lighter than most titanium cages. Stainless steel cages are weighing multiple times of the Cobra. But like with metal cages, when you compress the Cobra with your hands, there is no flex. Because of the heavy duty design I have never received a messages about a broken Cobra cage on my website. Due to the warmth, moisture and constant mechanical stress especially the points where beams meet are prone to breaking. This is especially the case with thinner built polymer cages or if cheaper material are used. I could create a coffee table book with pictures of broken cages I have been sent in the last three years when 3D printed chastity cages really took off.

Another indicator of the great build quality of the surface finish. There are no rough edges or pinpoints. The surface is covered in a semi-gloss smooth texture that is easy to clean, does not leave finger prints and feels warm to the touch.

The design is a traditional three piece design with the cage itself, the base ring and an internal lock. As a standard the locks are keyed alike. But for $25 you can order a randomized lock if you really want to feel secure and helpless. Though truth to be told since the lock is rather small it can be picked very easily by a moderately skilled lock pick. During Folsom Europe I have talked to a few lock picking kinksters regarding the Cobra’s internal lock. It turns out the challenge apparently is picking a lock parallel to your body literally locked in your crotch.

Putting on the Cobra

You start with putting the base ring on. My recommendation is going balls first and then squeeze the dick through. Then you put the cage over your shaft. If skin gets caught, use their Nether Nudger to adjust (see below). When joining the cage and base ring, note that the pins on the cage are not only for guiding but also for sturdily connecting both parts. If the pins are not completely sunken into the holes of the base ring, the lock will not fit! This was actually the biggest misunderstanding when I firstly put on the cage myself. I thought they should only align. But it they the cage does not meet the base ring, the lock cannot be pushed through the entire lock house.

The GUiding Pins need to be Pushed Completely into the Holes on the Base Ring. Otherwise the Lock cannot be pushed through

Speaking of the lock, that is a bit of a challenge to put in. It twists very easily to the shackle jams inside the lock house. Until now I have not found a good way to insert the lock. If I guide it holding the key, the shackle will flip; if I guide it on the lock, the heavy head of the key turns the lock involuntarily, jaming the shackle. But since you are probably not unlocking so often as I do (again, see below), this does not matter as much.

What surprised me in the review process how comfortable you can wear the Cobra even when having a bush. Of course, you need to make sure that hair is not caught between the guiding pins and the holes or inside the lock house. But other than that there is little chance of pinching and tugging.

Sizes & Sizing

At the moment Cobra offers 8 different sizes both in a standard and wide version. In order to determine your size, measure your flaccid dick from the base to the tip. When you are like me and have a meatier dick or want to wear a large piercing inside the cage, go for the wide version. Over the past decade I have tried many chastity cages and they were all too narrow to house my large foreskin covered glans, let alone with a 8x15x12mm piercing. But the Cobra R Wide is so spacious that I almost don’t notice the cage when being soft. Picking the right size is important: If the cage is too long, the glans sit in the shaft tube instead of the bulges head section. If the cage is too short, it can uncomfortably compress your dick, seriously reducing the long-term wear potential. You can find the cage size imprinted on the inside below the locking ring.

There are 8 sizes of base rings which again cover a really wide range of package sizes. Though ending at 60.3mm width I know at least a few big boys who need a larger one. But I am certain Kink3D can accommodate even thick members of the gay community. The ring size is imprinted in the nudge where the locking ring of the cage enters the lock house of the base ring.

The rings are slightly compressed at the tops and elongated at the sides for a rough egg shape. This shape is more anatomically correct and reduces pressure and leverage when moving.

To even further accommodate different anatomies every size is available in three versions: Standard is a simple round 8mm thick round piece of polymer. The XD has an oval intersection with a depth of 10.5mm. This way the gap between the cage base ring is even small. When you have very small, mobile or tight balls this might be the right one for you. If you are like me and have meatier balls or and testicle prosthesis, Kink3D offer also Curved rings which bend 5mm backwards following the anatomically shape of your taint. It reduces the pressure on the balls. By widening the gap from 11mm to 16mm smaller balls can of course more easily slip through the crack.

The Roughly Egg Shaped Base Ring

Choosing the right ring size and is a bit trickier. Your cockring is a good size reference. Though through the egg-shape the behavior of a base ring can be different. The task of the base ring is different than a cockring: The base ring should comfortably and securely keep the Cobra attached to your body without you being able to pull the dick out or a ball slipping through. A cockring should keep the blood inside your penis. Prolonging an erection while being locked in a chastity cage is actually an adverse effect. So especially when you are a grower start with a larger size. Furthermore, depending in your form of day, how full your balls get over time during chastity and the environment (warmer temperatures and higher humidity will make the ball sack looser) your testicles will looks, feel and behave differently. So you might need two or more rings for a perfect fit in different situations or seasons.

If you have the possibility to try out different base rings, I strongly recommend doing it! This is only a snapshot but gives you a good impression if the ring is too tight. The gold standard is trying the base ring with a fitting cage. Since the ring and the cage are connected, the cage exerts leverage on the base ring, pulling it forward and upward. This movement and pull can obstruct circulation to taint and balls. If you feel a burning or tingling sensation in your balls or on your taint, you should take off the cage and try a larger and/ or curved base ring. Constant pressure on your taint and balls can cause lasting irritations on your balls which can lead to serious injuries, especially when the seminal ducts or epididimys are effected.

This is actually the case with my testicle prosthesis: Over time the standard #4 ring put pressure on my cyborg ball and obstructing circulation. As an experienced kinkster who can differentiate between different kinds of pain and knowing that nothing down their could actually necrotize, I placed the pain sensation in the “annoying”, not the “dangerous” category and wore the cage until it got too annoying. Sometimes these were 12 hours, sometimes four hours. The pain was so annoying that I could not fall asleep. Because of this for the review I spent some days and some nights locked but never managed a full 24h. During Folsom Europe a friend pushed me as a virtual key holder to go locked and chaste as long a possible over a couple of days. Despite having the opportunity and indeed order to unlock when it became too uncomfortable I was a good boy and pushed myself until I got released in a scene on Sunday. This push irritate the nerves on my scrotum which are still recovering from the implantation surgery so much that I could not lock for a couple of days. Of course this a borderline case which luckily only effects very few men. But it illustrates well the importance of a correctly fitting base ring! And it also shows the paramount rule of chastity: Physical and mental health comes first!

So my next steps will probably getting a couple of new rings (#4 Curved, #5 and #5 Curved) and see how much I can push myself. You will read all about it in the update in a couple of months.

Long-term Wearing & CBT in the cage

Despite not going for really long streaks, I have had enough wearing experience to give your a glimpse into being locked 24/7 in a Cobra.

The most important aspect of a chastity cage is “How secure is it?” I would place the Cobra on the securer end of the security spectrum. If it is really well-fitted, it is almost impossible to pull the dick out. This is especially true when you are wearing a large piercing. It takes a bit of practice and twisting and turning the cage to get the piercing nicely rested in the head segment. Since you cannot twist the cage while being connected to the base ring, it is impossible to get a large piercing out of the head segment while being locked. For added safety you can of course use a PA lock when you are uncut.

Different Nudging Tools

How a Prince Albert piercing behaves inside the Cobra was actually one of the most often asked reader questions. To be frank, I was surprised how well and easy they both played together. When I got the cage, I was wearing an 8x19x14mm screw in ball, meaning the external diameter of the piercing was 35mm. That was a border line size for the R Wide! It was wearable but required some adjustment throughout the day. The piercing would twist, lock in place and put uncomfortable pressure on my foreskin. Since the piercing was so large it could barely move, I had to take the cage off in most instances. Since sizing down to 8x15x12mm I can easily adjust while wearing the cage using Kink3D Nether Nudger. This is a small 3D printed pin you can wear in your key chain. Especially for meatier and uncut guys, I consider this $10 accessory an essential – regardless if you have a piercing or not! It helps you push the skin in the right direction or adjust the piercing. When you are a grower or uncut, the skin folds sometimes get caught when getting hard or getting soft, leading to really uncomfortable pinching! The tip of the Nether Nudger helps to adjust and push the skin into place. Is is small and nimble enough to fit between the beams and long enough to reach even hard to get-to spots. While you can in theory use other pins, I find the Nether Nudger the most handy tool. In times of need when mine was not at hand, I have used tooth picks (don’t try that at home!), Montblanc pens (kind of ok, but too wide) or keys (depending on the key either too points and scratchy or too wide to get anywhere). The best substitute I have found at my desk was a small mechanical pencil from Liberty, a British friend gifted me some 15 years ago. If you want to keep your kink classy, go for it. But the Nether Nudger fits the aesthetics, material and design of the Cobra better.

When you Cobra is well-fitted, you do not notice it at all as long as your dick stays soft! This is due to the light weight. Heavier cages, especially ones made out of stainless steel develop momentum when moving around. The Cobra is a very calm cage. Cheaper and older cages we locked by a pad-lock that could clink against the cage or its sharp edges and corners press into your lower abdomen. Having an integrated lock this irritation does not occur with the Cobra. So it is perfect to wear all day in almost every kind of cloths.

Despite the R Wide being on the larger end of the size scale, it is not really noticeable as a chastity cage. Most people will just identify it as a bulge. During the review process I have worn the Cobra under jeans and gym cloths, chinos and thin suit cloths with Nasty Pig or Addicted briefs. The structure of the cage does not print through the cloths so people, especially non-kinkster, don’t notice you wearing a cage. Even under .6mm rubber it is just a bulge, under .45mm you start to see structure. Under Speedos or tight fitting jockstraps it of course leaves an imprint.

The Sizing Emprinted in the Cage and Base Ring

When flying back from my US holiday this year, I put the Cobra to the travel test. Neither US nor British security noticed it. I both went through body scanners and metal detectors and it did not show up on any. When going through a body scanner the TSA guard checked my bulky double buckle belt from Mister B but let me go without any further inspection. A friend of mine is working at TSA. If you should face s strip search and are questioned about your chastity cage, he recommended calling it a medical device. But I doubt this piece of advice will not be needed often.

This discrete wearing is curse and gift as the same time. It takes a VERY trained eye to spot a cage below clothing, especially the smaller ones. There are some – and I have to restrain myself to not write a more strongly worded term – people in the community who find it funny to punch or kick subs into the nuts “because the obviously like it.” This is pretty dangerous when wearing the Cobra! The exposing of the balls and leverage of the ring and the pressure a the firm and sturdy cage can put on the testicles can lead to serious injuries, resulting in loosing your balls on the worst case! So if you are a dom, top or sadist don’t be an asshole and ask for consent before busting somebody’s balls.

While technically is it possible to controlled busting somebody’s balls while he is locked in the Cobra, it takes some practice and precise targeting. I would only recommend doing it with toys of the fist. Nut kicks are simply to random for this. Due to the open design, the dick can somewhat be played or tortured with. Wax comes off easily from the PA12 nylon and I have not noticed a tarnishing of the surface. If you are into e-stim, you can either fit conductive pads or 2mm loops inside the cage. In my experience the 4mm are too rigid. What I have done is fitting the Wide cage into smaller dicked boys and using the stainless steel electrodes from Oxballs. One really dexterous US friend of mine sounds his subs using silicone sounds while being locked in the cage. Long story short: The cage is sturdy and flexible enough to get creative.

The material does not resonate much and transfers vibrations fairly well onto the dick inside. For a caged milking, the dick should fill out the cage well. Otherwise the vibrations are not strong enough to stimulate the nerve endings enough to lead to an orgasm.

A Single Key Locked in the Double Key Sleeve

Keeping everything clean down there is easy when you are cut. The large space between the beams allow ample water and soap to keep your dick clean. To expedite the cleaning process, I recommend getting a shower head where you can choose different jet strength settings. Focused, slightly stronger jets makes washing the soap away easier. Uncut guys like me I would recommend unlocking at least every other day to clean below your foreskin. Since it is more compressed than flopping around uncut, piss cannot wash your glans, especially when messaging the last bit from under your foreskin. Because of this, residue piss also lingers a bit.

Taking the cage off for cleaning or adjustment can make self-unlocking necessary. If you don’t live together with your key holder or travel, I recommend getting the Key Sleeve. They are offered for single or double keys since each lock comes with two keys. I went for the double one. While a single key dangles inside the wide sleeve a bit, it is still locked securely. So with the double you have the option to lock one of both keys using numbered seals. The key sleeve comes with 10 seals. If you need more and unlock often due to the various reasons above I recommend buying them in lots of hundreds of eBay or Amazon.

Conclusion: Comfortable and secure chastity for long-term wear

Pro

Cons

Toy

Price

Large range of possible sizes for perfect fit

Lock is a bit difficult to insert

Kits (including cage, base ring & lock)

$170 – $240

Can be worn over extended periods of time

Very well made

Cage

$125 – $185

Sturdy

Base Ring

$45 – $65

Randomized Lock

$25

Nether Nudger

$10

Single Key Sleeve

$25 – $30

Double Key Sleeve

$30 – $35

ToyTortue.com is Back!

Welcome back guys! It’s been a while, almost to date 8 months since ToyTorture.com went offline due to a cyberattack. In the meantime I did not believe that this little project of mine would actually come back. And now it is done.

First of all I need to thank a very special individual who did what I could not do. He salvaged what was left of my website and brought it back to life. My eternal thanks to him. Over the course of the past few months he stated that he just wants to bring this resource back. So he does not want attribution or a shout out. So in the name of all the visitors of ToyTorture.com: Thank you, thank you, thank you!

This brings me right to the next important group of people to thank: You, the loyal readers and fans of this little website. Thank you so much for your support, compassion and offers to help! Having a website like this can sometimes be emotionally exhausting. A lot of time, work, sweat, love and money goes into this non-commercial, non-profit hobby of mine. But in most cases, I do not get any feedback but impression numbers and reader questions. Getting so many messages of support in such a dark hour showed me that ToyTorture.com matters and makes an impact. That my work is not in vain. Thank you so much for that!

While the website with it’s vast archive is now online again (and with all the legacy links still working!), it is far from perfect. In the process of recovery apparently some things in the WordPress have been broken. They are minor design things which I will fix in due time. For the time being, I am just happy that I now have my resource again to reference to while answering questions to improve your kink and sex life.

The website comes back at the most unfitting time of the year. Usually around this time I am going on summer hiatus for BDSM summer camp in the USA, Folsom Europe and the early fall holidays to return in October. And since plans have been made and vacations been booked, do not expect any new content or design improvements soon. But once I return mid-October you can look forward to reviews of

– A hand full of Regulation and Fetters Impact Implement

– My House of Basciano M4 and other bondage gear by him

– Both an antro and realistic dildo set from Mr Hankey’s Toys

– Oxballs Ball Stretcher

in addition to some articles I have been preparing (For example a Kinkonomics piece how in this economically difficult times, which gift with purchase are the best to retain customers for kink shops).

So, if you want to keep up with my the latest updates and my kinky life, follow me on Twitter, Instagram or Bluesky! Great things are in the making and I can’t wait to share them with you!

Best,

Mr Fuckin’ ToyTorture – Jedi Butt Plug Master

Happy holidays perverts! I hope you are having a great time among your loved ones or will be around them soon. If you are struggling or need mental support over the holidays, you can find an overview of international help hotlines here.

Like every year I want to take the Christmas days to reflect a bit on the past year. 2023 sadly has yet again been a year with horrible outbursts of violence and hate. One of the founding principels of ToyTorture.com has been that this website is unpolitical, beliving in the unifying force of love and kink. But be assured that me as the person behind this little website has been deeply affected by what is going on in the world.

This development has partly been fueled by the transformation of Twitter into a cesspool of verbal violence and misinformation. Luckily my filter bubble is still holding up quite well. But I can see how this once flourishing space of kink life and discourse is slowly dissolving. So many important, knowledgeable and witty voice have been silenced or have gone silent. It feels like the Tumblr purge all over again! This fortifies my decision to host ToyTorture.com on my own and not host or post my reviews on one of the major platforms. A few months ago I started getting active on Bluesky and Instagram. If you like, give me a follow there!

For years Twitter has been the main driver for traffic to my website, especially after Tumblr died. Due to not having Twitter Blue, the reach of my tweets has gone done dramatically. This in combination with changes to the Google Algorithms sadly meant a drop in traffic to my website. Luckily ToyTorture.com has and always will be a non-commercial hobby so it just makes me a bit sad that less people see the work I put into this little website. If you like what I am doing or find something interesting retweet, reskeet or talk about it. Seeing peoples’ relationship, sex and kink life improve through what I write encourages me to keep going.

Not being dependend on traffic and revenue from ToyTorture.com also means that I have not been effected by the most drastic change in the adult toy review scene: The Apple Privacy Update. This update among other things blocks the URL suffix used to attribute affiliate purchases on all Apple products. This has caused a steep drop in income for all reviewers depending on it affiliate networks. So I predict for 2024 many websites closing down or shifting focus. Again, ToyTorture.com will remain non-commercial and independent even though hosting costs, etc are not cheap. But I have always considered this my way of giving back to the community by helping kinksters finding the right tools to make their fantasies come true safely.

This website being a hobby is also reflected in subtle changes some of you might have noticed. Most notable reviews are becoming more and more infrequent. The Sunday-6pm-review is sadly a thing of the past. When I started writing kink toy reviews I was undergraduate student with plenty of time on my hands, especially when I became single again. These days are long gone. As a mid-level executive with a fiancée my priorities have shifted in the past years leading to the one review per week being an unsustainable frequency. Also, after 11 years I have written almost 500 reviews, blog entries and 101s. This means, I have covered almost all relevant toys. Of course there are still some very interesting and innovative toys out there which I will review! But for better or for worse the days of regular reviews are a thing of the past.

This does not mean that ToyTorture.com will go offline anytime soon! On the contrary, the past year has shown me more than ever how important such a website is as lighthouse leading kinksters new and old to high quality toys! Due to the global economic situations many kinksters have started looking at less expensive toys, mostly manufactured in Asia. While there are some great kink brands in the Asian Pacific region (ForFun in Bangkok or Army of Men in Sydney), many are not meeting the high standards you would expect from products made for intense body contact. In 2023 the messages asking about advice how to deal with allergic reactions after playing with leather toys & gear probably contaminated with Chrome-6 or silicone (anal) toys being colored with paint not being made for body contact have skyrocketed. So please, before buying cheap kink toys of Temu, Wish, Alibaba or even Amazon and eBay, consider the hidden costs and please be save!

This has been a surprisingly long end of year message. I want to close with thank you for your ongoing support of ToyTorture.com! All your messages, reader questions and kind words at events encourage me to keep on going. Thank you for reading what I write, even when I sometimes rumble on. For 2024 I wish you all the best, fun, kink and unexpected connections and look forward to meeting many of you at kink events, sex parties and prides throughout Germany – especially if you want to top me.

ToyTorture’s Stocking Stuffer III – Supporting MLC Book Crowdfunding

Playing on the Edge – 60 Years Living in the Gay Fetish and Leather Scene

Today’s Stocking Stuffer is a bit different from the usual ones. Originally I wanted to feature another small and thus sometimes overlooked independent kink business. Sadly I did not get the approval to use their pictures in time. But more importantly, today’s feature is a project close to my heart and my – local – community.

Many of you traveling Germany for kink fun know the Underground in Munich, on of Europe’s – if not the world’s – premier venue for gay kink, fetish, gear and BDSM fun. What many don’t know is that it is not a commercial venue but like Quälgeist in Berlin, Bunker in Dresden or Ox in Erfurt is volunteer run. The club behind this awesome place is called MLC e.V. – Münchner Löwenclub (Munich Lions Club, not to be mistaken with the local chapters of the Lions Club International).

Next year the MLC will celebrate their 50th anniversary. Among many parties and special events, they want to celebrate this milestone with a book called “Playing on the Edge”. In 50 articles and interviews it dive deeply in the history and life in the German speaking gay leather and fetish scene from the 1960s up to the current day. Currently the book is scheduled to be released in June 2024 and currently in German. But even if you cannot – yet – read it, it will feature many hot pictures from talented photographers. So it will also work as a coffee table book.

If books aren’t your thing, there are many other perks for supporting this project like a 50th anniversary merch package, VIP party tickets or throwing a private party in the venue. So if you or a friend of yours is interested on the history of the German kink scene, gift yourself or him this book and meanwhile support Europe’s largest gay fetish club.

ToyTorture’s Stocking Stuffer II – Slagwerk Atelier Exclusive Impact Implements

The Slagwerk Italian Leather Paddle

BDSM toys mostly follow the principal from follows function. This makes sense since they are being used in darker surroundings and – at least in the gay kink community – following an industrial/ rough design aesthetic. Slagwerk from the Netherlands follows a different direction. By matching braided Italian leather with polished stainless steel their toys have the look of luxurious lifestyle accessories instead of dungeon tools.

The Slagwerk Riding Crop

Personally, I find these three toys most interesting. The Italian Leather Paddle (170€) does not only look interesting, I imagine that the texture of the woven leather has an interesting impact sensation. At 50cm overall length it should be long enough to hit both ass cheeks at the same time yet the blade it thin enough to hit intricate spots. Second is their Italian Leather Single (185€) which is an is basically an dragon tongue directly attached to a handle. This is an actually very intuitive design which I have not yet seen at other kink stores and which intrigues me how well it handles as a toy! Last but not least or their riding crops (starting at 155€). Having a riding crop sticking in your boot shaft is a very classic leather look and a nifty thing to have because it it easily accessible if you need to discipline your sub without dangling around hanging from your belt. The exclusive design of the handle and shaft makes their riding crops stand out and are truly an accessory adding to the appeal of a leather uniform. The riding crops come in interesting color configurations like red leather slappers. But I am sure you can get a traditional all black design too on request.

Example of the Slagwerk exclusive Limited Edition

If you really want to treat your dom (I don’t think subs are the main market for their toys), they offer limited editions in even more exclusive configurations. On these toys the stainless steel is gold plated and the handle lining is made out of exotic hides. The top of the line is a solid gold handle flogger adorn with five diamonds. Considering the weight and low stiffness of gold, I am not sure how usable such a toy will be but for the rich kinkster who has EVERYTHING, it might just be the Christmas gift to get.

Sadly I have not yet had a chance to play with their toys. Looking at the designs and material being used, the impact sensation seems to be on the intenser and stingier side of the spectrum. If you are a kinkster coming to Easter Berlin and bring Slagwerk toys with you, please get in touch. I would love to see, try and experience if the handling and quality lives up to their extraordinary design.

Head Harness for AVON Gas Masks

The VAST Head Harness for AVON Gas Masks in Red Superior Latex

Vendor: VAST

Happy Nikolaus Day! As promised last Sunday, here is a short bonus review of a an add-on for your AVON S10/ FM12 gas mask.

Construction

The head harness has the same six-point-shape of the original rubber (S10) or mesh (FM12) head harness of the AVON gas masks. The main difference is that you install roller buckles mounted on small latex straps using screw rivets into the clamp locks for adjusting the original head harness. The roller buckles come in plain or locking variety without a surcharge depending on your taste. Using these roller buckles you can adjust the main body of the head harness. The six straps attached to the back piece are quite long so they will fit even large heads. Since this head harness is one size fits all, on really small heads the access strap can flap around a bit. If you want to learn how to fit this head harness on your gas mask, I posted a little guide here (scroll down to the second half of the guide).

A Roller Buckle mounted onto an FM12’s Clamp Lock

Since VAST uses it’s own aramide reinforced Superior Latex for this head harness you cannot shorten the straps on your own. The good thing is because of the reinforcement you can really tighten or pull on it HARD. You will rather rip the locks off than then tear the rubber so don’t exert too much force.

Off the rack the harness comes in the “standard” fetish colors black, red and yellow. But I am sure you can ask for custom colors within the 4D Latex color scheme.

Playing with the Head Harness for AVON Gas Masks

For me this head harness is an innovative and breath-play suitable answer to the often asked question “Where can I a hood attached to my AVON gas mask?” A few years ago many rubber makers used to attach hoods to S10/ FM12 gas masks with a zipper at the back for a full rubber drone look. Currently I think only Blackstyle in Berlin and Regulation in London do this anymore if at all. Attaching a hood was often a not quite satisfactory thing because getting the fit right was difficult: Unlike a flexible rubber hood which wraps around the head, there is a big, stiff “front piece” which determined the fit of the rest of the hood. One result of this was that the actual gas mask did not create a full seal, making it unsuitable for breath play.

The Head Harness Attached to a Breathing System-ready FM12

With this head harness made out of latex you can create a hot looking, full rubber feeling yet still gas-tight configuration. For this put on your tight fitting latex hood as a base layer and then fetter the gas mask over it. This way your head is completely enveloped in rubber but the gas mask fits tight enough for proper breath play. Despite being aramide reinforced the rubber is soft so lying on the head harness is not uncomfortable. The rubber buckles are on the side so even the locks on the locking ones don’t press into your head when bound to the back.

The Back Piece with the Long Straps

The rubber base layer also keeps the head harness’ rubber from touching your skin and hair so you don’t need to clean it. Since oils and fats which are present on your skin and hair can destroy rubber over time, you need to clean latex after skin contact. Keep this in mind when using the head harness on bare skin.

Despite the wide range of adjustability I strongly recommend initially getting the right size gas mask size for your head! In order to work properly, the gas mask needs to create a tight seal around your face. Choosing a too large or too small gas mask will make this seal difficult, especially around the chin regardless how strong you tighten the straps.

Conclusion: Great feeling and highly functional alternative to attached rubber hood.

Pro

Cons

Where to get

Price

Wide range of adjustability for breath play-ready gas-tight fit

VAST

99€

Full rubber feeling

Extremely sturdy

Lockable option available without surcharge

ToyTorture’s Stocking Stuffer I – Josh Herman X Harnesses

The Josh Herman X Fullbody Grant Harness

Hurry up perverts! Since Christmas Eve is on a Sunday this year, we have the shortest possible per-Christmas season in Germany because the fourth Advent Sunday is Christmas Eve. Thus there will only be three gift tips this year! So without further ado let’s jump right into it.

What to gift a kinkster who has everything? Accessories – or more precisely – a harness. They are the perfect piece of gear for hard play allowing the top to move around freely, giving him something to grab the sub and they make every hot guy even hotter. Sadly some leather makers fashion their designs and cuts only for twinks or average sized guys. Many members of our community are beefier and heavier build and simply scaling up cut does not do the trick! Josh Herman celebrates this body type with harnesses and accessories designed with thick guys in mind. Naturally his designs also fit average guys but if you have struggled to find a properly fitting harness, check him out.

The Bulldog Harness & Armband both with the Stirrup Grip

He features all the classic designs from Bulldog (starting $149.99) at  over Shoulder ($149.99) and Stampede ($174.99) to Grant Fullbody (starting at $174.99) – with an option to either directly attach the harness to a cockring or with little carabiners at the end so it works as suspenders. The Bulldog and the Grant Fullbody harness can be ordered with a so called Stirrup handle. This is a stirrup-like leather look riveted and sown onto the chest-traversing strap. It is the perfect addon if you want to get pulled closer.

The standard range of his leather is black, red, olive, blue and caramel. But judging from the pics on his social media he might be open to custom work in your favorite hanky color. You can either choose a solid color, have a contrast colored piping or just have the handle in a different color.

Josh Herman X’s Fullbody Stampede Harness

If you don’t want to invest into an entire harness, Josh Herman also offer smaller accessories like arm bands ($24.99) which can add a nice touch of color to an outfit or let you flag your favorite hanky in leather style. What especially intrigued me were the Stirrup Leather Arm Bands ($75) which add the niftiness of the stirrup grip to the biceps so you have something to hold onto while railing your bottom HARD. I wonder if he would also make them in thigh size.

Every year I get many questions from thicker guys where to buy gear. And to my surprise I have never noticed one of this unique leather pieces in Europe. So hopefully this gift tips helps you get a harness the makes you feel even sexier than you already are!